You’re a pretty unique person, with your own distinctive style and flair, and you’re finally met someone so awesome, you want to make them a part of your life … permanently.

I’m talking marriage. But because you’re you, and they’re them, this isn’t going to be an ordinary wedding. It’s going to be crazy. It’s going to be fun. It’s going to make most wedding celebrants quake in their celebrant boots.

Enter me. I’m Steff, a registered alternative wedding celebrant in New Zealand, as well as an Ordained Minister of the American Marriage Ministry. I love everything dark and romantic. It is my job to ensure that wonderful, unique, beautiful couples like you have someone who will marry them their way. Someone who gets it. Someone who will dress up as Gandalf for a Lord of the Rings wedding, or perform a medieval handfasting, or read poetry on the beach.

Officiating a Lord of the Rings wedding for this stunning couple.

Officiating a Lord of the Rings wedding for this stunning couple.

My clients include heavy metal musicians, buddhists, gay and lesbian couples, geeks, pagan/esoteric practicioners, steampunk weddings, gothic weddings, and everything in between, Anyone looking for a celebrant who respects and celebrates their individual style will find a friend in me. If you need someone who will perform a legal NZ marriage ceremony or US marriage ceremony the way YOU want it, then contact me today at

Click here to read more about hiring me to perform your alternative wedding ceremony.

“We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.” -Robert Fulghum 

When I’m not officiating wonderful weddings for awesome people, I am a USA Today bestselling paranormal romance author (under the name Steffanie Holmes). You can check out my books on Amazon.

I’m also the author of Till Death Do Us Part, an inspiration guide for alternative couples in love. This glossy, coffee-table book with over 100 images from dark alternative weddings will be in stores in 2015 from David Bateman Publishers. You can read more about it on the Book page.

Want to see some of the weddings I’ve officiated? Need some tips for planning an alternative wedding? Then check out the Gothic Wedding Planner blog!

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