As those of you who’ve read my book, the Gothic Wedding Planner, know – I’m opposed to STDs. I mean Save-the-Date cards, although it never hurts to remind ourselves to practise safe sex. Practise a lot, if you’ve got the opportunity Save-the-Date cards. I hates them. We didn’t send them out, and when my soon-to-be-wedded [...]

Bridesmaids – we love them. They help glue invites together, they tell us when that dress we like look horrific, and stay up till the wee hours listening to our laments about the world ending because the napkins don’t match the gift boxes. With alternative weddings, the couple tends to make use of the creative [...]

Let’s face it – as much as the steampunks among you would like to believe it, this isn’t the Victorian age anymore, and many people are living together and having kids before they get married. But what happens if you’re going to be pregnant at your wedding? Two good friends of mine are getting married [...]

With so many different elements to pull together, your wedding offers plenty of opportunity for disaster to strike. I’ve heard some real doozies – florists skipping town, priests breaking into hour-long sermons at outdoor weddings on a hot summer’s day, fistfights between the groomsmen and wedding dress alterations from hell. It’s inevitable that something, somehow, [...]

Dear Steff I LOVE Christmas – it’s such a magical time of the year. Every Christmas I feel like there’s the surreal faery dust in the air. It’s just amazing. I want to get married at Christmas, preferably on Christmas Eve but at the very least two or three days before Christmas. My husband thinks it’s [...]

Dear Steff I have a question. We want to do something fun at our reception that doesn’t involve dancing. We don’t dance and neither do our friends. Do you have any ideas for a gothic/steampunk wedding that doesn’t have dancing? *** I sure do! You shouldn’t be surprised to know this is a common question. [...]