Wedding Invitation Etiquette: The Dos and Dont’s


Renaissance Wedding Invitations, from The American Wedding.

There are a number of different things to think about when picking out invitations for your wedding. From envelope options to paper weight to colors and font size, the amount of wedding invitation ideas available will boggle the mind. Being aware of the etiquette as it relates to the invitations for your wedding can assist you in getting through what can be the overwhelming task of selecting save-the-dates, addressing the invitations and ensuring that all the guests RSVP.


Below are a few etiquette guidelines that you can use to build the guest list for your wedding:

  • Determine the amount of money you can afford to spend on food for each guest at the reception and use that cost to figure out the number of guests that will be invited. The head count at the wedding reception is typically the biggest expense in your budget.  Ascertain your budget and make sure that you stick to it.
  • Prior to making the master guest list, you and the partner should make a list of potential invitees and ask both sets of parents to come up with a list as well. Compile the lists and graciously work together to establish a final master list with the desired number of guest to fit the budget.
  • Prioritize your master list by determining the “must invitees,” the “should invitees” and the “could invitees.” If all the “must invitees” fall within your budget, move on to the “should and could invitees.” This method ensures that the most important individuals will make the cut.
  • A rule of thumb is that family is always invited first. Bear in mind the your wedding guests are essentially “witnesses;” therefore, they should be people you care about like family members and close friends with whom you will stay in touch for many years.
  • In the event that a single family member or friend is in a long-term and committed relationship, although they are not married, invite that individual and his or her partner by name. In addition, if allowed by the budget, give the single guests the option of taking a guest. If that is outside of your budget, appropriately address the invitation. Do not write “and guest,” hoping that they will not bring one.
  • The decision about whether or not to invite children can be a difficult one. Prior to making that decision, think about the kind of wedding you will be having. If the reception starts in the evening, you will possibly have a few meltdowns on your hand when the kids start to get tired. If your wedding is a casual early afternoon affair, then this would be a more appropriate setting for children.


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